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A '''maid''' or a '''maiden''' usually refers to a virgin woman. A guarantee of virginity is normally the presence of a [[maidenhead]]. Women are generally expected to be virgins on their wedding night, more so for noble women.  For example, because [[Lysa Tully]] was no longer a virgin her father Lord [[Hoster Tully]] found it difficult to arrange a marriage for her to a man of equal rank. 
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[[File:The North Remembers by Isabel Westling.jpg|Despite being married to [[Tyrion Lannister]], [[Sansa Stark]] has remained a maid.<br>© Isabel Westling |thumb|300px|right]]
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{{hatnote|Not to be confused with [[Maiden (the Seven)|the Maiden]], one of the seven gods of the Faith.}}
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A '''maid''' or a '''maiden''' usually refers to a virgin woman. Maidens may be [[Marriage|wedded]] and [[bedded]]; However, many husbands will wait until the bride is fifteen or sixteen before sleeping with them. Very young mothers tend to have significantly higher rates of death in childbirth, as noted by the [[maesters]].<ref>[[So Spake Martin]]: [http://www.westeros.org/Citadel/SSM/Category/C91/P210/ Age of Sexual Relations in Westeros (October 05, 1999)]</ref>
  
The loss of a noblewoman’s virginity can also become an opportunity for some nobles looking to marry off sons who are not considered good prospects.  After many rejections from other Houses Lord [[Tywin Lannister]] eventually approached the father of [[Delena Florent]] who had given birth to the bastard [[Edric Storm]].  Tywin proposed that his dwarf son [[Tyrion]] be married to Delena. Her father rejected the proposal, preferring to marry her off to one of his household knights, like [[Hoster Tully]] he probably wanted a "whole man" for his daughter. {{Ref|asos|19|p  221}}
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A guarantee of a woman's virginity is normally the presence of a maidenhead. Women are generally expected to be virgins on their wedding night, more so for noblewomen. However, noblewomen are more likely to lose their maidenheads during [[horse]]back riding, it is said, and proof of their maidenhead during the wedding night - a bloody sheet - is therefore not often insisted upon.{{Ref|AFFC|28}} Nonetheless, men might refuse a bride if she is no longer chaste.{{Ref|TRP}}
  
Virginity can also be held in high esteem by the [[Dothraki]] on occasion. It is quite likely that a [[Khaleesi]] should be a virgin bride. If [[Daenerys Targaryen]]’s brother had succeeded in claiming her [[maidenhead]] the night before her wedding it would have, according to [[Illyrio Mopatis]], undone years of planning{{Ref|aDwD|5}} – meaning that Khal [[Drogo]] would not have accepted Daenerys if she had not come to him a virgin bride.
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The loss of a noblewoman's virginity can diminish her possibilities for marriage. When Ser [[Jason Lannister (son of Gerold)|Jason Lannister]] took the virginity of Lady [[Alys Stackspear]], after which she became pregnant, his brother, Lord [[Tytos Lannister]], insisted upon their marriage.<ref>Unabridged edition of ''[[The World of Ice & Fire]]: [http://www.georgerrmartin.com/world-of-ice-and-fire-sample/ The Westerlands (georgerrmartin.com)]</ref> However, Lady [[Delena Florent]], who had been deflowered by King [[Robert I Baratheon]] and given birth to his [[bastard]] son [[Edric Storm]], was eventually offered Lord [[Tywin Lannister]]'s youngest son, the [[dwarf]] [[Tyrion Lannister|Tyrion]], as husband. While Lord Tywin himself made the offer, he considered it to be below the standards of his house nonetheless.{{Ref|ASOS|19}}
  
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Virginity can also be held in high esteem by the [[Dothraki]]. According to [[Magister]] [[Illyrio Mopatis]], when Prince [[Viserys Targaryen]] attempted to claim his [[Daenerys Targaryen|sister's]] maidenhead prior to her wedding to ''[[Khal]]'' [[Drogo]], he would have undone years of planning,{{Ref|ADWD|5}} implying that Khal Drogo would not have accepted Princess Daenerys as his bride if she had not come to him a virgin.
*[[Customs# Marriage|Marriage]]   
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A price can be placed upon a girl's maidenhead. For example, [[Emma]], a serving wench at the [[Quill and Tankard]] in [[Oldtown]], determined that [[Rosey|her daughter's]] maidenhead would cost a [[Currency|golden dragon]].{{Ref|AFFC|Prologue}} Other forms of payment can also be used at times.{{Ref|TMK}}
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A virgin man can also be referred to as a maiden{{Ref|ASOS|75}} or a man-maid{{Ref|ADWD|68}} on occasion.
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In contrast to the rest of Westeros attitudes about sexuality are more relaxed in [[Dorne]]{{ref|TWOIAF| Dorne: Queer Customs of the South}}. Therefore it is not expected by the [[Dornishmen]] that a woman stays a maid till marriage. Princess [[Arianne Martell]] lost her virginity to [[Daemon Sand]] when they were both fourteen years old, and their couplings had been both clumsy and ardent. Arianne recalls that it had been sweet.<ref name="twow-arianne">''[[The Winds of Winter]]'', [[Arianne I (The Winds of Winter)|Arianne I]]</ref> Although her father [[Doran Martell|Doran]], [[Prince of Dorne]], eventually learned of this, he did not react to it.{{Ref|aFfC|13}}. Arianne continued to have multiple lovers over the years, including at least one of her childhood friends, as well as Ser [[Gerold Dayne]] of [[High Hermitage]].{{Ref|AWOIAF|Arianne Martell}}{{ref|ADWD|38}}{{Ref|AFFC|21}}{{ref|affc|40}}
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==See also==
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*[[Customs#Marriage|Marriage]]   
 
*[[First Night]]
 
*[[First Night]]
 
*[[Bedding]]
 
*[[Bedding]]
*[[Maidenhead]]
 
  
 
==Quotes==
 
==Quotes==
{{Quote|"I am still a maid." {{Ref|asos|68|p 775}}}} [[Sansa]], to [[Lysa Tully]]
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{{Quote|I am still a maid.{{Ref|ASOS|68}}|[[Sansa Stark]], to [[Lysa Tully]]}}
==References and Notes==
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{{Quote|[[Randyll Tarly|He]] told me once I was sure to die a maiden.{{Ref|ASOS|75}}|[[Samwell Tarly]], to [[Jon Snow]]}}
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{{Quote|A [[House Frey|Frey]] girl, and not of my choosing, she is [[Amerei Frey|not even a maiden]].{{Ref|AFFC|7}}|[[Lancel Lannister]], on his chosen bride}}
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{{Quote|Do you want to die a man-maid?{{Ref|ADWD|68}}|[[Gerris Drinkwater]], to [[Quentyn Martell]]}}
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{{Quote|[[Myrcella Baratheon|Myrcella]] never shed a tear, though it was she who was leaving hearth and home to seal [[House Martell#Recent Events|an alliance]] with her maidenhood.{{Ref|AFFC|13}}|[[Arys Oakheart]]}}
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Revision as of 13:53, 8 March 2021

Despite being married to Tyrion Lannister, Sansa Stark has remained a maid.
© Isabel Westling

A maid or a maiden usually refers to a virgin woman. Maidens may be wedded and bedded; However, many husbands will wait until the bride is fifteen or sixteen before sleeping with them. Very young mothers tend to have significantly higher rates of death in childbirth, as noted by the maesters.[1]

A guarantee of a woman's virginity is normally the presence of a maidenhead. Women are generally expected to be virgins on their wedding night, more so for noblewomen. However, noblewomen are more likely to lose their maidenheads during horseback riding, it is said, and proof of their maidenhead during the wedding night - a bloody sheet - is therefore not often insisted upon.[2] Nonetheless, men might refuse a bride if she is no longer chaste.[3]

The loss of a noblewoman's virginity can diminish her possibilities for marriage. When Ser Jason Lannister took the virginity of Lady Alys Stackspear, after which she became pregnant, his brother, Lord Tytos Lannister, insisted upon their marriage.[4] However, Lady Delena Florent, who had been deflowered by King Robert I Baratheon and given birth to his bastard son Edric Storm, was eventually offered Lord Tywin Lannister's youngest son, the dwarf Tyrion, as husband. While Lord Tywin himself made the offer, he considered it to be below the standards of his house nonetheless.[5]

Virginity can also be held in high esteem by the Dothraki. According to Magister Illyrio Mopatis, when Prince Viserys Targaryen attempted to claim his sister's maidenhead prior to her wedding to Khal Drogo, he would have undone years of planning,[6] implying that Khal Drogo would not have accepted Princess Daenerys as his bride if she had not come to him a virgin.

A price can be placed upon a girl's maidenhead. For example, Emma, a serving wench at the Quill and Tankard in Oldtown, determined that her daughter's maidenhead would cost a golden dragon.[7] Other forms of payment can also be used at times.[8]

A virgin man can also be referred to as a maiden[9] or a man-maid[10] on occasion.

In contrast to the rest of Westeros attitudes about sexuality are more relaxed in Dorne[11]. Therefore it is not expected by the Dornishmen that a woman stays a maid till marriage. Princess Arianne Martell lost her virginity to Daemon Sand when they were both fourteen years old, and their couplings had been both clumsy and ardent. Arianne recalls that it had been sweet.[12] Although her father Doran, Prince of Dorne, eventually learned of this, he did not react to it.[13]. Arianne continued to have multiple lovers over the years, including at least one of her childhood friends, as well as Ser Gerold Dayne of High Hermitage.[14][15][16][17]

See also

Quotes

I am still a maid.[18]

He told me once I was sure to die a maiden.[9]

A Frey girl, and not of my choosing, she is not even a maiden.[19]

Lancel Lannister, on his chosen bride

Do you want to die a man-maid?[10]

Myrcella never shed a tear, though it was she who was leaving hearth and home to seal an alliance with her maidenhood.[13]

References